The Gifts of Imperfection
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- Author：Brené Brown
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Summary
In hardcover for the first time， this tenth-anniversary edition of the game-changing #1 New York Times bestseller features a new foreword and brand-new tools to make the work your own。
For over a decade， Bren� Brown has found a special place in our hearts as a gifted mapmaker and a fellow traveler。 She is both a social scientist and a kitchen-table friend whom you can always count on to tell the truth， make you laugh， and， on occasion， cry with you。 And what's now become a movement all started with The Gifts of Imperfection， which has sold more than two million copies in thirty-five different languages across the globe。
What transforms this book from words on a page to effective daily practices are the ten guideposts to wholehearted living。 The guideposts not only help us understand the practices that will allow us to change our lives and families， they also walk us through the unattainable and sabotaging expectations that get in the way。
Bren� writes， "This book is an invitation to join a wholehearted revolution。 A small， quiet， grassroots movement that starts with each of us saying， 'My story matters because I matter。' Revolution might sound a little dramatic， but in this world， choosing authenticity and worthiness is an absolute act of resistance。"
For over a decade， Bren� Brown has found a special place in our hearts as a gifted mapmaker and a fellow traveler。 She is both a social scientist and a kitchen-table friend whom you can always count on to tell the truth， make you laugh， and， on occasion， cry with you。 And what's now become a movement all started with The Gifts of Imperfection， which has sold more than two million copies in thirty-five different languages across the globe。
What transforms this book from words on a page to effective daily practices are the ten guideposts to wholehearted living。 The guideposts not only help us understand the practices that will allow us to change our lives and families， they also walk us through the unattainable and sabotaging expectations that get in the way。
Bren� writes， "This book is an invitation to join a wholehearted revolution。 A small， quiet， grassroots movement that starts with each of us saying， 'My story matters because I matter。' Revolution might sound a little dramatic， but in this world， choosing authenticity and worthiness is an absolute act of resistance。"
Reviews
Sarah Harris
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I want to listen to it on audiobook again。 It was a good quick read， I feel like anyone could benefit from。 In general summary， the book is about embracing the moment， not worrying about others， or the appearance of perfection。 Just be your best self。
Sarah Grove
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I wish I had read this 10 years ago。 I want to try and read it every few years。
Mercedes
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DNF @ 33%Mmmm， not for me。 Written in 2010， advice is a bit outdated。 Stopped when a section described Gavin Newsom （amongst others） as a “thought-leader”。 LOL！ Sorry， hard for me to take someone seriously that can include that with a straight face。
Cheryl
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this book was like a restart button for me。 I know it largely applies to white women， but I'm a white woman。 this book was like a restart button for me。 I know it largely applies to white women， but I'm a white woman。 。。。more
Amy
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I appreciate Brene Brown and listen to her podcasts。 I found this book to be so helpful！ I give it 5 stars because the content is accessible and her writing style is fluid and easy to follow。 The ideas in this book are very helpful and I am working towards improving all areas within my guideposts。 I would recommend this book to anyone who is craving a framework for self improvement that has very tangible and actionable ideas。
Parastoo
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اگر مثل من کمال گرا هستید در مطالعه‌ی این کتاب و بعد کتاب زندگی تاب اورانه از همین نویسنده که مفصل تر ازین کتاب هست و نقدی از دل برآمده هم براش نوشتم، ساعتی، دقیقه‌ای و یا لحظه‌ای تردید نکنید که درمانیست واقعی از یک نویسنده‌ی شرم پژوه که خود گرفتار کمال گرایی بوده‌است و خلاصه رنج مشترک و درک مشترک و درمانی مشترک و آرامبخش😊🍒
Alexis Shannon
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“Here's what is truly at the heart of wholeheartedness: Worthy now， not if， not when， we're worthy of love and belonging now。 Right this minute。 As is。”As a recovering perfectionist， so much of this book hits home。 Our worth is not defined by our achievements or our busy-ness。 Wholehearted living is about living openly， letting go of other peoples expectations and truly embracing our authentic selves。 “Here's what is truly at the heart of wholeheartedness: Worthy now， not if， not when， we're worthy of love and belonging now。 Right this minute。 As is。”As a recovering perfectionist， so much of this book hits home。 Our worth is not defined by our achievements or our busy-ness。 Wholehearted living is about living openly， letting go of other peoples expectations and truly embracing our authentic selves。 。。。more
julianna
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i'm a sucker for social science research i'm a sucker for social science research 。。。more
Maddy
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Such an amazing read all about how we need to live into ourselves and not letting the world and others define who we are。 We must live wholeheartedly。 Really hitting some parts of me that I am working through。
Lindsay
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So easy to understand and follow！ Very applicable principles that can help anyone。
Paulo De Godoy
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The book opened my eyes on taking the courage to face the day to day challenges on the workplace and in my relationships。It's an amazing approach to reframe the concept of shame and use vulnerability on a daily basis。It gives us the courage to get exposed， to be seen in the arena of life and to be bold。 The book opened my eyes on taking the courage to face the day to day challenges on the workplace and in my relationships。It's an amazing approach to reframe the concept of shame and use vulnerability on a daily basis。It gives us the courage to get exposed， to be seen in the arena of life and to be bold。 。。。more
Maryam
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این کتاب ، کمک میکنه که با خود ناکاملتون روبرو شین و راه حل هایی برای دوست داشتن این （（ خود ）） میده 。。。 واقعا کتاب قشنگ و ارزشمندی برای مطالعه بود ، من مطمئنم که چندبار دیگه قسمت هایی که هایلایت کردم از کتاب رو بخونم :）
Maeve
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A guide to living a wholehearted life by embracing being imperfect and focusing on courage， compassion， and connection。 The author suggests cultivating authenticity， self-compassion， resilience， gratitude， joy， faith， creativity， mindfulness， playfulness， laughter/dance/songand meaningful work。
Ioana
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Atunci când vine însă vorba despre ceea ce am apreciat mai puțin în ceea ce privește volumul lui Brené Brown， este vorba despre acel sentiment de lipsă de compactare a textului， în ansamblul său， acesta reliefându-mi-se mai degrabă ca un compendiu de gânduri răzlețe și mai puțin ca un material de dezvoltare personală care să deservească întru-totul în acest sens， în special grație omogenității sale。 Pe de altă parte， accentele motivaționale își fac pe deplin simțită prezența， prin urmare s-ar pu Atunci când vine însă vorba despre ceea ce am apreciat mai puțin în ceea ce privește volumul lui Brené Brown， este vorba despre acel sentiment de lipsă de compactare a textului， în ansamblul său， acesta reliefându-mi-se mai degrabă ca un compendiu de gânduri răzlețe și mai puțin ca un material de dezvoltare personală care să deservească întru-totul în acest sens， în special grație omogenității sale。 Pe de altă parte， accentele motivaționale își fac pe deplin simțită prezența， prin urmare s-ar putea ca acestea să fie ușor nedigerabile， mai ales pentru cei ce nu se remarcă drept mari fani ai genului și care preferă să-și îndrepte doar ocazional interesul spre astfel de lecturi。În altă ordine de idei， m-am așteptat ca această carte să fie cu mult mai "exciting" și cu mult mai relevantă， pentru mine， cel puțin。 Însă nu a fost așa， din păcate。 Am remarcat o oarecare tendință de repetitivitate， pe alocuri， coroborată cu o dorință de "a mă mișca" mai mult （la figurat vorbind） și am cam rămas， ca să zic așa， fără prea multă curiozitate de a descoperi și alte scrieri ale autoarei。 Sau cel puțin， pentru moment。 。。。more
Kristin Boldon
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An easy to read and relate to book that gives a lot of solid advice on how to live more wholeheartedly。
Ashley
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A lovely book of permission to bravely be。Quotes:"。。。we cannot give our children what we don't have。 Where we are on our journey of living and loving with our whole hearts is a much stronger indicator of parenting success than anything we can learn from how-to books。""When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don't fit with who we think we're supposed to be， we stand outside of our story and hustle for our worthiness by constantly performing， perfecti A lovely book of permission to bravely be。Quotes:"。。。we cannot give our children what we don't have。 Where we are on our journey of living and loving with our whole hearts is a much stronger indicator of parenting success than anything we can learn from how-to books。""When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don't fit with who we think we're supposed to be， we stand outside of our story and hustle for our worthiness by constantly performing， perfecting， pleasing， and proving。 Our sense of worthiness -- that critically important piece that gives us access to love and belonging -- lives inside of our story。""Practicing self-love means learning how to trust ourselves， to treat ourselves with respect， and to be kind and affectionate toward ourselves。""We can only belong when we offer our most authentic selves and when we're embraced for who we are。""。。。most of my anxiety grows out of the expectations I put on myself。"Guilt = I did something bad。Shame = I am bad。"。。。shame corrodes the part of us that believes we can change and do better。""。。。when we don't care at all about what people think and we're immune to hurt， we're also ineffective at connecting。""'Don't shrink。 Don't puff up。 Stand on your sacred ground。'"Re: addiction， "'Hi。 My name is Brené， and today I'd like to deal with vulnerability and uncertainty with an apple fritter， a beer and a cigarette， and spending seven hours on Facebook。'""'Don't ask what the world needs。 Ask what makes you come alive， and go do it。 Because what the world needs is people who have come alive。'" 。。。more
Megan Coleman
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"Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life。 Research shows that perfectionism hampers success。 In fact， it's often the path to depression， anxiety， addiction， and life paralysis。""'Healthy striving is self-focused: 'How can I improve？' Perfectionism is other-focused: 'What will they think？'""No matter what gets done and how much is left undone， I am enough。""Worthiness doesn't have prerequisites。""Shame "Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life。 Research shows that perfectionism hampers success。 In fact， it's often the path to depression， anxiety， addiction， and life paralysis。""'Healthy striving is self-focused: 'How can I improve？' Perfectionism is other-focused: 'What will they think？'""No matter what gets done and how much is left undone， I am enough。""Worthiness doesn't have prerequisites。""Shame and fear can't tolerate that kind of powerful connection surging between people。。。 that's why I can call courage， compassion， and connection the gifts of imperfection。 When we're willing to be imperfect and real， these gifts just keep giving。""Fitting in is about assessing a situation and become who you need to be to be accepted。 Belonging， on the other hand， doesn't require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are。""Happiness is tied to circumstance and joyfullness is tied to spirit and gratitude。""By merely letting go of the list of things we want to accomplish and aquire， we would be actually living our dream。" 。。。more
Aisling Stack
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Good insights， thought provoking moments。 Will reread again in the future。
Rutana AL-Douh
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لم يكن كما ظننت بل كان افضل من ذلك بكثير
Janna
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I found parts of the book pertinent to my life and interesting， but when I finished it I realized a disconnect between the title and the overall message。 If imperfections are supposed to be gifts， why is most of the book spent telling me things I should do differently to lead a wholehearted life？
Magda w RPA
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Not great， not terrible。 It’s a very touchy-feely book and I guess I expected research。 The way it’s written is just not the way that appeals to me。 I like percents and averages and hard data and then some conclusions， but I get that not everything can be captured in this way。Having said that， I definitely understood what the author meant some of the time。 I think some of what she said there would be very useful in working on being less judgmental towards myself and others。
Alina Ayala
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Great read！ Embrace the person that you are including your imperfections。 Great tips and stories。 Breath of fresh air。
Lynn Coffin
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LOVED this。 I feel seen！ I am not a super big self help book person and I know a lot of them have to fit your place in life and well this one did it for me。 Will read again。
Andres Barreda
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A reader always values when the author demonstrates transparency and intimacy， like in this case Brene did。I liked the book and the overall message。 It sounds simple， but we need courage and fearlessness to act to our convictions and to own our story。Repetition is one of the oldest tricks to emphasize the point， and to a certain degree it works。 Unfortunately， Brene just did a little too much of it。
Kari
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I’ll never really finish this book
Katherine Slingerland
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UGH！ Life Changing！ I highly recommend this book to anyone wanting to ask themselves some hard questions！
Catchingfire
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1。 Learn to lean into uncomfortable emotions because avoidance leads to disaster 2。 I exist therefore I’m worthy 3。 Courage， compassion and connection open the world to us 4。 Perfectionism isn’t about achievement， it’s about begging others for approval and controlling your narrative where you shouldn’t 5。 Being authentic breeds more happiness than pain 6。 We are all looking for connection and a shared reality， we are not more or less than each other 7。 Don’t try to climb the capitalist ladder， l 1。 Learn to lean into uncomfortable emotions because avoidance leads to disaster 2。 I exist therefore I’m worthy 3。 Courage， compassion and connection open the world to us 4。 Perfectionism isn’t about achievement， it’s about begging others for approval and controlling your narrative where you shouldn’t 5。 Being authentic breeds more happiness than pain 6。 We are all looking for connection and a shared reality， we are not more or less than each other 7。 Don’t try to climb the capitalist ladder， learn to practice gratitude 8。 Live in the present， you’re enough exactly as you are 9。 Shame shuts up us， which is exactly why we need to voice our shame and thus let it go 10。 What others think of us is none of our business， learn to turn up your own voice and quieten that of others when it comes to opinions and judgements 。。。more
Rachel Starner
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At times difficult to read and hard to implement but allowing us all to be more vulnerable in how we feel
B
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This is the kind of book to read and reread throughout your life。 Assess， reassess。 I listened to it along with the podcast that goes through the guideposts that she did with her sisters。 Highly recommend。 Some ideas in here hit so hard at your core。 For me， this time through it was the idea of foreboding joy， when you're so happy about something， you start getting suspicious and dress rehearsing tragedy。 Yep。 Also， all the ways in which we numb。 How you can't numb the dark without also numbing This is the kind of book to read and reread throughout your life。 Assess， reassess。 I listened to it along with the podcast that goes through the guideposts that she did with her sisters。 Highly recommend。 Some ideas in here hit so hard at your core。 For me， this time through it was the idea of foreboding joy， when you're so happy about something， you start getting suspicious and dress rehearsing tragedy。 Yep。 Also， all the ways in which we numb。 How you can't numb the dark without also numbing the light。 。。。more
Stacey
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